Life’s decisions are made all the time.

  • Will I log on to see what’s on WordPress?
  • What will I have for dinner?
  • Will I walk the dog tonight?
  • Will I get up and close the door?

We make decisions all the time. Sometimes we do not even know we are deciding something.

Shall I have white, milk or dark chocolate?

The point I am trying to make is that decisions get easier. The more we make them, the easier they are to make.

Yeah. I’ll have milk chocolate instead.

Practice really does make perfect. The more decisions you make, the easier they become to make — and achieve.

Now I am not saying that all decisions are easy; I wish they were. But the point is that after making a difficult decision, making a similar choice will be easier. Albeit slightly because you will have a little experience of the situation.

*note to self* Maybe this is useful to think about next time a difficult decision needs to made?!


Past, future, present

What does the past teach us?

Although we cannot change the past it does enable us to reflect on what has gone so right (or horribly wrong) in our lives. The past is anything that has actually happened. For some, it could be remembering how well you did in an exam, for others it could be pondering on the last time you were with your friends, thinking fondly of that smile and joke you said, or heard a friend say!

So the past is full of stuff, but what is this stuff? Put simply, it’s experience. Having the ability to remember something means that you have experienced it.

the past is experience

What can be taught about the present?

Well it isn’t great to think too far ahead. For the worriers out there, this means thinking too much about their high expectations. If one has high expectations and they are not met, then, naturally, one would feel bad.

One thing about being in the present moment is our ability to experiment with upcoming decisions. Such as, what am I going to wear in the morning? Or, I must get next week off to use up my leave. Whatever you do, make sure you experiment wisely. Don’t run yourself in to the ground. Don’t experiment too much, or too little. Time is precious, what you are feeling today will be a past memory tomorrow – hopefully a good long-lasting memory on your past.

The future is all about expectation

You cannot control the future, but you can influence the future’s impact. You could make your packed lunch in a few hours and put it in the fridge for tomorrow morning, rather than rushing yourself in the morning. Why break out in a sweat before work when you could be a little more productive with time?

Don’t expect too much though, remember not to experiment too much, or too little (as I wrote above).

Experience shapes our decisions

Use your experience in your experiments to achieve your expectations. Thanks for letting me expand on the time post a while ago. Writing this has made me appreciate that all the things in life are precious. Including the simple things!

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Gut feeling

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Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.
(Benjamin Spock)

Thinking this, that or the other

Everyday we are faced with the (joys) of adulthood – decisions, decision making etc. As a young child I remember thinking (constantly) why my parents always told me that school days were the best days of my life. At the time, getting up early, having to do routine work was more like a dreaded chore rather than an enjoyable experience. Nearly two decades later, I look back thinking that this wise statement was correct and accurate.

Today, I have to make several decisions within a day! Yes, I guess I am lucky to be able to actually make decisions, in fact, I am very grateful for having the ability to decide on what to do in the many decisions of life!

Easy to difficult decisions

Decisions for us adults can be as small as deciding what to wear in the morning. What food to have for dinner. Whether or not to text/call that friend etc. But there are some decisions we are faced with in life which just seem to be impossible to make at the time.

Difficult but not impossible decisions

Touch wood, I haven’t had to make a life or death situation so far in my life, but I have a friend who had to give written consent to turn her Dad’s life support machine off a few years ago. At the time, I remember thinking how difficult that would have been. As an outsider (non blood related friend) this looked impossible to do, let alone consider. But to my surprise she decided (after a few hours of thinking) to let her Dad to be out of his pain by agreeing with the medics in the hospital to turn off his life support machine.

As a friend I was there, ready to listen and support my friend as she made a very difficult decision. I was literally there physically (in person) and emotionally.

In this episode of life, I have learnt that we really can make decisions, often whenever we think we cannot.

Next time…

  • you need to see if you should put a laundry wash on, just do it. The chances are, your gut is telling you it’s right
  • you feel you need to call that person in your mobile phonebook, just do it. The chances are, your gut is telling you it’s right
  • you feel it would be nice to go for a walk, just do it. The chances are, your gut is telling you it’s right
  • you are left with a really difficult decision, have a think to yourself, then just do it, make the decision. The chances are, your gut is telling you it’s right

Life really is short, and precious. Our gut will often steer us in the right direction. Even in times of turmoil. It seems to be that it’s rarely wrong for us, you, and other people. So just try to go with your gut more today, than you did yesterday!

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